Hello i cant use /help or /playerlist nothing why its so? i think im on the whitelist i can join the server so i think it

We currently don't have any mods running, as we are waiting for a stable bukkit release.

So that basically makes us a vanilla SMP server at this time (no commands for standard users), which should (hopefully) change soon.

can i be OP?

On your own server? Sure.

Donate $10,000 and maybe Broonie will consider it...